Marriage, love and romance.

The formation of couples, that is, the relationship “one man – one woman”, was the basic concept of people’s life for a long time. Usually there was such an order of relations in which a man kept his beloved woman and, if he could feed, several more, from time to time entering into a one-time relationship on the side. Modern marriage is a product of Christian ideals, and its purpose is obvious: to recruit supporters. If two adults were persuaded to obey a set of rules requiring obedience to God, then the offspring that appear in a marriage will automatically enter the bosom of their parents’ religion. If somewhere any human activity is furnished with elaborate rituals and solemn vows, then such activity usually contradicts our biological nature in some way. The ritual is designed to make us do things which naturally we would not do. Budgerigars do not need a ceremony to enter into a monogamous marriage – this is their natural biological state. To insist that a polygamous animal, such as a ram, be limited to one sheep, is equally funny. By this we do not want to say that marriage in modern society should not take place. We, the authors, are married, but it is important to understand the history of marriage and its relationship with our biological nature. Therefore, what are the advantages of marriage for men? From the point of view of biological nature – none. A man is like a rooster that seeks to disperse its genetic seed as widely and to disperse it as often as possible. However, the man is still getting married, getting divorced, then getting married again or maintaining pseudo-friendly relations. In this way, society has shown remarkable ability to limit a biologically lascivious man. When a man is asked: “What does marriage bring you?”, Most people usually begin to mumble something obscure about a warm safe shelter, about food prepared for him, about ironed shirts. At the heart of these considerations is the desire to get a cross between their mother and personal servant. Psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud argued that such men are probably looking for a relationship with a wife such as mother-son in marriage. Only 22% of men mentioned that their wife was their best friend. The best friend of most men is usually another man, as they better understand each other’s thought processes. When women were asked: “Who is your best friend?” 86% answered: another woman, in other words, someone with the same brain structure. When men are about to get married, many imagine that this is the beginning of an endless series of sexual services on demand, but such expectations are never discussed before marriage, and after all, a woman imagines marriage in a completely different way. At the same time, polls show that a married man has more sexual intercourse than a single man, and a married man aged 25-50 has sex on average 3 times a week, but only 50% of single people are often given the opportunity to deal with a woman . The average for a single man is once a week. In 1997, in Australia, 21% of single men did not have sex once a year, in married men, such men accounted for 3%. As we mentioned, sex brings health. Unmarried or widowed men die prematurely much more often,

Why do women need monogamy?

Although marriage in Western countries has turned from the point of view of law into a toothless tiger, most women seek to bind themselves by official marital relations, and 91% of all people are married. The reason for this situation is the woman’s desire to demonstrate to the whole world that the man considers her “special” and intends to adhere to monogamous relations with her. The feeling that she is “special” has a huge impact on the chemical reactions in a woman’s brain. This is confirmed by research data, which showed that the frequency of a woman reaching orgasm is four to five times higher in a conjugal bed and two to three times higher in the case of a monogamous marriage. The older generation now has the feeling that young people consider marriage an obsolete institution. 1998 survey conducted among 2344 college and college students — equally among both, aged 18-23, showed that this was not so. When asked about the desire to marry, 84% of girls and 70% of boys answered that they would eventually get married or get married. Only five percent of young men and two percent of girls considered marriage institution obsolete. Friendship was considered more important than sexual relations, 92% of representatives of both sexes. When a question was asked about the prospect of remaining the wife or husband of one person for the rest of his life, 86% of girls and 79% of boys reacted positively to this. Only 35% of couples felt that the relationship between boys and girls was now better than those of their parents’ generation. Fidelity took a very high place in the priority list of girls: 44% of those who have not yet turned 30, said they would sever relations after learning that a man is cheating. For women over 30, this indicator decreased to 32%. This figure was even lower for women over forty years of age: 28%, and over 60 – fell to 11%. This means: the younger the woman, the more rigid she will be in relation to a man walking on the side of the man, the more important loyalty to her, the higher monogamy is in her system of values. This approach is not clear for a man. Most of them sincerely believe that a casual relationship will not affect the relationship: a man’s brain easily separates sex from love. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. For women over 30, this indicator decreased to 32%. This figure was even lower for women over forty years of age: 28%, and over 60 – fell to 11%. This means: the younger the woman, the more rigid she will be in relation to a man walking on the side of the man, the more important loyalty to her, the higher monogamy is in her system of values. This approach is not clear for a man. Most of them sincerely believe that a casual relationship will not affect the relationship: a man’s brain easily separates sex from love. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. For women over 30, this indicator decreased to 32%. This figure was even lower for women over forty years of age: 28%, and over 60 – fell to 11%. This means: the younger the woman, the more rigid she will be in relation to a man walking on the side of the man, the more important loyalty to her, the higher monogamy is in her system of values. This approach is not clear for a man. Most of them sincerely believe that a casual relationship will not affect the relationship: a man’s brain easily separates sex from love. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. the more rigid she will be in relation to the man walking on the side of the man, the more important her loyalty, the higher monogamy is in her system of values. This approach is not clear for a man. Most of them sincerely believe that a casual relationship will not affect the relationship: a man’s brain easily separates sex from love. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. the more rigid she will be in relation to the man walking on the side of the man, the more important her loyalty, the higher monogamy is in her system of values. This approach is not clear for a man. Most of them sincerely believe that a casual relationship will not affect the relationship: a man’s brain easily separates sex from love. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap. But for a woman, love and sex are closely intertwined. Sexual relationship with another woman can be considered by her as the greatest possible betrayal, which is the reason for the gap.

Why men are reluctant to make a marriage commitment.

A man who has been married for a long time is always secretly worried that a single man has more sex and more pleasure. He imagines fascinating orgies, free sex without any obligations and a sauna full of naked supermodels. He is afraid that opportunities will float past him, and he will be left with nothing. And the fact that at that time when he was lonely, he never had such opportunities does not matter. He forgets about the evenings spent alone in front of a can of unheated canned food, about the humiliating refusals of women who openly neglected them in the face of friends at a party, about long periods of complete sexual abstinence. He is constantly worried by the thought that marriage commitments mean missed opportunities.

Where does love nest in the brain.

An American scientist, Dr. Anthropology Helen Fisher of Routh University, New Jersey, conducted an original study using a brain scan technique to determine which areas of the brain are responsible for love. Although only preliminary results were obtained in this work, it determined the place of three types of emotions in the brain: lust, passion and affection. Each emotion corresponded to its specific chemical reactions, which activated the brain when someone was attracting its owner. From a biological point of view, these three components of love provide the practical implementation of a vital reproductive function. As soon as conception has taken place, the system is deactivated and the love process stops. The first stage, lust, which is associated with physical attraction and proceeds without words, we have already discussed. Fisher writes: “Passion is a stage at which another person does not leave your head and you cannot get rid of it. Your brain is focused on the positive qualities of a loved one and ignores all negative ones.”

The craving phase is an attempt by the brain to establish a connection with a potential partner, and there is an emotion so powerful that it can cause incredible euphoria. If a decisive refusal occurs at this stage, then the result may be inadequate despair, which, it is possible, will be followed by obsession, obsession. In extreme cases, even killing can occur. At the stage of craving, several powerful chemicals are released that cause a sense of recovery. Dopamine gives a feeling of well-being, phenylethylamine increases the level of arousal, serotonin creates a sense of emotional stability, and norepinephrine gives you the impression that you can achieve any goal. Don Juan’s syndrome is common to people who can not do without this delicious cocktail of hormones and wish to stay in this state always. But the stage of craving is a temporary condition, lasting on average from 3 to 12 months. People mistakenly consider this stage to be love itself. However, this is just a biological device of nature, which wants to guarantee that the man and woman stay together long enough for reproduction. At this stage, lovers are in danger: they believe that their sexual drives are ideally suited to each other, but draw this conclusion on the basis of the fact that they have sex like rabbits. The real differences in their sexual drives are revealed only after the completion of the stage of passion and the next stage – attachment. When real life finally prevails over passion, each or one of the partners will either reject the other, or the third stage of attachment will begin, at which the connection is built strong enough and long for the joint raising of children. Fisher suggests that, given the rapid development of brain scanning technology, she will be able to continue researching to find those parts of the brain that are responsible for both male and female love. Understanding the three stages will help you cope with the stage of passion and get ready for a possibly not so pleasant development of events. Given the rapid development of brain scanning technology, it can, continuing research, find those parts of the brain that are responsible for the love of both men and women. Understanding the three stages will help you cope with the stage of passion and get ready for a possibly not so pleasant development of events. Given the rapid development of brain scanning technology, it can, continuing research, find those parts of the brain that are responsible for the love of both men and women. Understanding the three stages will help you cope with the stage of passion and get ready for a possibly not so pleasant development of events.

Love – why did a man fall in love and a woman fall out of love?

They say that love is a state akin to insanity, and this statement is true primarily for men. Men are crammed with testosterone throat, and he pushes them into the stage of passionate attraction of love. During this stage, men are so highly inflamed with testosterone that they cannot distinguish the top from the bottom, the right from the left. Reality, reaching them, hits them especially cruelly. A woman who was so amazing in the middle of the night, after sunrise, seems completely unattractive, and not smart either. In a woman, the centers of emotions and logic in the brain are more closely connected, there is less testosterone in her, and it is easier for her to assess whether she has chosen a worthy partner. That is why, in most cases, women who break up an affair more often break off and why so many men cannot understand what happened. Women parting operation is carried out softer than men, even if they despise a man. In a farewell letter, many do not even forget to say that her love will last forever.

Why is it difficult for a man to say “I love you.”

The phrase “I love you” is always given to a woman much easier than a man. Due to the specific structure of the brain, the woman’s world is full of feelings, emotions, communication and words. A woman knows that, feeling protected, desired and adored, and at the stage of affection, she probably loves. A man, however, does not very clearly imagine what love is, and often confuses lust and passion for love. He knows that he can’t take his hands off her, maybe this is love? His brain is blinded by testosterone, he has a constant erection, and he cannot think soberly. It often happens that years will pass after the romance begins, until the man realizes that he really loves, moreover, he realizes it retroactively. A woman immediately recognizes that there is no love, and therefore often ends the relationship first.

Many men are completely unable to communicate. It seems to them that, having spoken the word “L”, they will forever commit themselves and take care of this word for an extraordinary case of a naked supermodel in a sauna. When a man crosses the Rubicon and says the coveted word, he wants to tell about this event everywhere, to everyone and everyone. However, men, as a rule, do not notice that the frequency of achieving an orgasm by a woman increases after he said a word in the letter “L”.

How men manage to separate love from sex.

The betrayal of a woman who is happily married is a rare thing, and married, and happily, an adventurer on the side is an ordinary thing. More than 90% of novels are initiated by men, and more than 80% of novels are completed by women. This happens because the woman is the first to realize: the novel no longer carries with it an emotional connection, but only a physical one, and it begins to burden her. The male brain, which has the ability to separate love from sex, due to the fact that it is divided into separate sections, takes only one thing at a time. He often lacks an excellent, purely physical connection, which completely absorbs his attention. It is still unclear where exactly love is located in the brain, but studies have shown that a woman has a whole network of connections between the center of love and the sex center (hypothalamus) in the brain, and it’s possible to activate the sex center only after how the center of love is activated. The man, apparently, does not have such compounds, so a separation is possible for them: love separately and sex separately. For a man, sex is sex, and love is love – sometimes they happen to be together.

The first question that a woman asks when she catches her husband in treason is: “Do you love this woman?” The man answering, “No, this is purely physical,” perhaps tells the truth because he can separate sex from love. The female brain cannot understand or perceive this answer, so many find it difficult to believe when a man tells her that this means nothing. For a woman, sex is love, love is sex. For the female brain, it is not a physical act with another woman that offends, but a violation of emotional contact, the loss of confidence that she experiences towards him. If a woman has cheated and says that it does not mean anything, then in all likelihood she is lying. For a woman to cross the line, followed by sex, means to establish an emotional connection with another man.

When women make love, men have sex.

There is an old saying: making love is the same thing a woman does while a man takes possession of her. However, the very thing that happens is often the cause of a quarrel between lovers. A man calls sex sex, but a woman reacts negatively to this word, because, by her definition, the term is incorrect. A woman “makes love”, which means: she wants to feel loved and wants her to have a feeling of love before sex itself begins. For most women, an act of “sex”, devoid of love, is beneficial for only one side of the act, because the female brain cannot accept the definition of love as sex.

When a man says “sex”, he means a purely physical act, which does not mean the lack of love for the woman with whom he is together.

When a man wants to “make love,” he still wants to call it sex. The reaction to this word in a woman may be negative, but the expression “make love” makes many men feel that he is deceiving her, because sometimes he wants only pure sex. If a man and a woman understand what’s the matter and agree to ignore the terminology used by everyone, there is no disagreement around this issue: another reason for the quarrel is eliminated in the bud.

Why great partners look so attractive.

Studies at the Kinsey Institute revealed that during intercourse, a woman’s perception of a man by a man depends on the depth of his inner feelings for her. This means that he appreciates her physical attractiveness higher if he loves her, even if others consider her ugly. If he is not particularly interested in her, then estimates her attractiveness lower than, perhaps, she deserves it. When a man is in love with a woman, the size of her hips no longer matters. From his point of view, they are perfection itself. These data show that if physical beauty plays a significant role at the first meeting, then with long-term relationships warm attachment becomes most attractive, and this is confirmed by the studies mentioned in the section “What we are looking for” in chapter 9. However, the attractiveness of men for women is different, as was shown in quite interesting studies that were conducted in bars visited by single people. Scientists have discovered: the later the hour, the more attractive a free woman seemed to a man. A woman whom men put on a ten-point scale at five at seven in the evening, at ten thirty in the evening already got a score of seven, and at midnight – eight and a half, and the more alcohol in the blood, the higher the score. Women, however, setting the five at seven, gave the same score at midnight. which, on a ten-point scale, men put five at seven o’clock in the evening, at ten thirty in the evening already got a rating of seven, and at midnight – eight and a half, and the more alcohol in the blood, the higher the rating. Women, however, setting the five at seven, gave the same score at midnight. which, on a ten-point scale, men put five at seven o’clock in the evening, at ten thirty in the evening already got a rating of seven, and at midnight – eight and a half, and the more alcohol in the blood, the higher the rating. Women, however, setting the five at seven, gave the same score at midnight.

In women, alcohol does not affect the assessment of the degree of attractiveness, sometimes after alcohol the mark even decreases. Women continue to evaluate a man as a partner, primarily for personal qualities, and not for physical attractiveness, and her opinion is not affected by either the hour or the amount of alcohol drunk.

Is there a pull of opposites to each other?

In 1962, a study was first conducted in which it was established that we are attracted to people with the same interests, values, attitudes, and perceptions. With such people we instantly get in touch. In subsequent works, it was demonstrated that under such circumstances, lovers have a higher chance of a long-term relationship. However, too much semblance can be boring. We need differences that complement each other so that the partner seems interesting to us, but not so large as to require a change in lifestyle. For example, a calm man may be attracted by a sociable woman, but it is unlikely that she will be too worried about everything.

Physical opposites attract.

Take a look at the results of any study on the physical attractiveness of people of the opposite sex, and you will see that we prefer physical features that contrast with our own. Men prefer women who are soft where they are firm, and with bends where they have a straight line. A man prefers women with wide hips, a narrow waist, long legs and a round chest – with all the attributes that they do not have. He loves a small chin, a small nose and a flat stomach, because he has these features are usually directly opposite. Women also love contrasting features in men, including broad shoulders, thick legs and arms, strong protruding chins and a large nose. However, there are a number of interesting exceptions. Some studies have shown that men who do not drink alcohol women with small breasts prefer, and women with large breasts prefer men with a small nose, and men with a small nose are attracted by women with flat breasts. Extroverts are drawn to women with very large breasts.

The key is the ratio of the hips to the waist.

If you follow how men’s tastes have changed over the centuries, you’ll see that men had everything in fashion – from large, thick-skinned women of the 16th century to skinny supermodels whose figures are like pencils. Only one characteristic remained constant: the ratio of the volume of the waist and hips never escaped the attention of a man. It was found that a woman with a waist volume of 70% of her hips has better health compared to other women and a higher level of fertility. Dr. Devendra Singh from the University of Cambridge examined men of many nationalities and found that the man unconsciously knows about it, and his brain is set accordingly. Women will be pleased to know that if they have a waist-to-hip ratio of 67 to 80%, then men will not leave them with their attention, even in the case of overweight from five to ten kilograms, since the main criterion is the curvature of the bend. Women are still attracted to men with a figure similar to a triangle with a wide side at the top, that is, with wide shoulders, a narrow waist and strong arms, which are the attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. even in the case of overweight from five to ten kilograms, since the main criterion is the curvature of the bend. Women are still attracted to men with a figure similar to a triangle with a wide side at the top, that is, with wide shoulders, a narrow waist and strong arms, which are the attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. even in the case of overweight from five to ten kilograms, since the main criterion is the curvature of the bend. Women are still attracted to men with a figure similar to a triangle with a wide side at the top, that is, with wide shoulders, a narrow waist and strong arms, which are the attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. since the main criterion is the curvature of the bend. Women are still attracted to men with a figure similar to a triangle with a wide side at the top, that is, with wide shoulders, a narrow waist and strong arms, which are the attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. since the main criterion is the curvature of the bend. Women are still attracted to men with a figure similar to a triangle with a wide side at the top, that is, with wide shoulders, a narrow waist and strong arms, which are the attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. a narrow waist and strong arms, which are attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. a narrow waist and strong arms, which are attributes of a successful food provider. Women all over the world also prefer that men have a small tight ass, but few of them realize why they find this attractive. We are the only primates that have a protruding butt, and it serves two purposes. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization. First, it acts as a counterweight, providing a direct position on two legs; the second – it gives the man the opportunity to make a strong direct attack during intercourse, which increases the chances of fertilization.

Men and seduction.

Not that a man doesn’t want to seduce a woman romantically, he simply does not understand the importance of courtship for a woman. The demand for books is a clear indicator of what interests us. Every year, women spend millions on romantic works of the kind that Mills and Boone publishes. The main topics in women’s magazines are love, romantic courtship, gossip about other people, or how to keep fit, how to eat and dress in order to start a romance. Conversely, men spend millions on books and magazines filled with useful technical tips on subjects such as computers and other mechanical devices that require spatial imagination or hunting, fishing, and football. Therefore, it is not surprising: when it comes to courtship, men do not know what to do. A modern man has never had a corresponding example before his eyes, and therefore his predicament is explainable. His father did not know how to care, because he did not need it. At one of our seminars, a woman recently told how she asked her husband to show love for her more often: in response, her husband washed and polished her car. This case shows what exactly men consider a manifestation of love. The same husband bought his wife a jack for the car as a birthday present, and by the tenth anniversary of the wedding, two tickets in the front row for wrestling competitions. so that he often showed love for her: in response, her husband washed and polished her car. This case shows what exactly men consider a manifestation of love. The same husband bought his wife a jack for the car as a birthday present, and by the tenth anniversary of the wedding, two tickets in the front row for wrestling competitions. so that he often showed love for her: in response, her husband washed and polished her car. This case shows what exactly men consider a manifestation of love. The same husband bought his wife a jack for the car as a birthday present, and by the tenth anniversary of the wedding, two tickets in the front row for wrestling competitions.

While Europeans have earned the reputation of people who can romantically care, although it is somewhat overpriced, the vast majority of men around the world have no idea about the romance of courtship. Previous generations were too busy fighting for survival to worry about such subtleties. In addition, the male brain is tuned to technology, not aesthetics. It’s not that the man did not try to do something in this regard, but he simply does not understand the importance of the gesture: to open the car door, bring flowers, dance, cook a woman dinner or change a roll of paper in the toilet. Sex comes as a result of such gestures. Men often start with sex, and only then begin to ponder how to build other aspects of the relationship.

Some reliable romantic tips for a man.

When it comes to love and courtship, a woman has no problems, but the man finds himself in complete darkness, so he prefers to think that he is ready for love anytime, anywhere, anytime. The man’s ability to care (or lack thereof) plays a huge role in whether a woman wants to make love to him, so we give the man six true tips that will help the man now, just as he did five thousand years ago.

1. Organize your environment.

Taking into account female sensitivity to the environment and high susceptibility to external stimulation, it makes sense for a man to pay attention to the place where the meeting will take place. The female hormone estrogen makes it sensitive to lighting: dim light dilates the pupils, and people begin to look more attractive to each other, and skin and wrinkle imperfections are less noticeable. The magnificent hearing of a woman requires the right music. You also need a secluded clean cave, which is guaranteed to not be able to burst at some point in a group of children or someone else. The woman’s urgent desire to have sex only in an intimate setting explains why the woman’s most common secret fantasy is connected with sex in front of the public.

2. Feed her.

Since you evolved as a hunter, it will not be difficult for you to understand that by feeding a woman, you will thereby awaken primitive instincts in her. That is why an invitation to dinner is the most important part of the ritual for her, even if she is not hungry, because a gift in the form of food indicates that you care about her well-being and survival. When a woman prepares food for you, it serves both for her and for you an even more powerful symbol, which is associated with the deepest instincts.

3. Light a fire.

Collecting firewood and kindling a hearth is a service that a man has performed for a woman for hundreds of thousands of years. For a woman, such an action looks very romantic. Even if it is a gas fireplace, which she can easily light up, he must do it himself if he wants to create a romantic atmosphere. The act of providing the service is important, not the fire itself.

4. Bring flowers.

Most men are not aware of the power of a bouquet of flowers. The man thinks: “Why spend such a breakthrough of money on a thing that will have to be thrown away in a few days?” Men’s logic is ready to put up with the act of donating a pot with a flowering plant, because the plant will live with care and care, maybe even profit! However, a woman sees all this in a different light: she wants a bouquet of fresh flowers. After a few days, the flowers will fade, and they will have to be thrown away, but then an excuse will appear in order to buy the next bouquet, and again appeal to romantic instincts, satisfying her lofty desire.

5. Dance with her.

Not that the man actively did not want to dance: simply, many in the right hemisphere do not have an area responsible for the sense of rhythm. Go into any aerobics class and look at the men (if any) who are trying to keep the rhythm. A man who has given himself the trouble of learning to dance rock and roll or waltz is invariably successful with all women at any party. They say about dance that this is a vertical act of horizontal desire and its history is the history of a ritual in which contact between a female and male body was allowed as one of the courtship techniques. Analogues exist in animals.

6. Buy chocolate and champagne.

This combination has been associated with romantic courtship for many years, although few know why. Champagne contains chemicals not found in other alcoholic beverages that are associated with increased levels of testosterone in the blood. Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, which stimulates the center of love in a woman’s brain. Daniela Piomella of the Institute of Neuroscience in San Diego, in a recent study, identified three new chemicals called M-acyl-ethanolamines, which, like substances from hemp, attach to receptors in the female brain, causing sensations similar to those that appear after smoking marijuana. These substances are found in dark chocolate and cocoa, but they are not found in white chocolate and coffee.

Why does a man stop touching a woman and talk to her.

“Before we got married, he always held my hand for a walk, stroked my back and talked continuously. Now he doesn’t take my hand and doesn’t want to talk to me, but only touches when he needs sex.” This complaint is probably familiar to you. During courtship, a man touches his lover more often than he will ever do in the process of their life together. This happens because he is dying of the desire to “possess” her, but, not having received permission for sexual contact, he compensates for this by touching wherever allowed. When he receives the nod to sexual embrace, his brain does not see any reason to return to the already completed stage. Therefore, he focuses on the “more desirable.” His conversation during courtship is a collection of information – data and facts – about the girl and providing her with information about himself. By the time they get married, he knows everything he needs to know about her, and he does not see the point in further conversations. A man must understand that the female brain is programmed to talk, that her sensitivity to touch is ten times higher than that of him, must learn the art of communication through words and touch, which will lead to a sharp increase in the quality of his love life.

Why do men love touch.

The hormone oxytocin is known as the “hug hormone”. It enters the bloodstream when someone’s skin is gently stroked or wrapped in a gentle hug. It increases the sensitivity to touch and arouses a sense of community, representing the main factor determining the behavior of women in relation to children and men. When a woman starts feeding her baby, this hormone gives an impetus to the mechanism of milk secretion from the breast. If a woman wants to give pleasure to a man by touching him, she will touch him as she would like to feel the touch of herself. She will scratch his head, stroke his face, massage his back and gently sort out his hair. Such caresses on many men do not have an effect and can even be annoying. His skin has a sensitivity less than that of women, so that he does not feel pain and does not notice injuries during the hunt. Men prefer to be touched only in one place, and the more often, the better. These differences lead to disagreement. When a man wants to touch a woman sensually, he reaches for those places that are most sensitive for himself. A woman hates too intimate touch above all: the result is mutual disgust. When a man and a woman learn to give pleasure to each other by touching their partner the way he likes best, their relationship will become much richer. A woman hates too intimate touch above all: the result is mutual disgust. When a man and a woman learn to give pleasure to each other by touching their partner the way he likes best, their relationship will become much richer. A woman hates too intimate touch above all: the result is mutual disgust. When a man and a woman learn to give pleasure to each other by touching their partner the way he likes best, their relationship will become much richer.

Расцветает ли любовь весной?

The biological alarm clock is set so that females give birth in the warm season to ensure the best conditions for the survival of infants. If an individual has to bear a fetus, say, for three months, then in males the peak of desire comes in the spring, and the cubs are born in the summer. People have a baby for nine months, so the highest level of testosterone is observed nine months earlier – in the fall. The old adage “In the spring, all feelings are turned to love” is true only for those representatives of the animal world who have a short, about three months, period from conception to birth. Studies show that in the southern hemisphere, the highest level of testosterone in men occurs in March, and in the northern – in September. In these months, men also show great competency in reading cards,

How to mentally sexualize.

Since the mind is a combination of chemical reactions, it is possible to mentally bring yourself into a sexually excited state. This technique is taught by many sex therapists. It consists in focusing on the positive qualities of your sexual partner and addressing the memory of the delightful sexual scenes that have taken place. The brain responds by releasing chemicals that cause sexual arousal in you, and you have a corresponding desire. This desire arises naturally when the lover is at the stage of a passionate attraction or courtship, when he sees in his beloved only the good, and the mutual attraction seems endless and never ceases. There is also the opportunity to abandon the desire that has arisen, focusing on the negative qualities of the partner,

Relive the passion drive again.

It’s nice to know that since you can force yourself to come into a state of sexual arousal with the thought, you can just as well bring yourself into a state of passion for thoughts, remembering how you looked after before. That is why a candlelit dinner, a romantic walk along the evening beach, a weekend spent in solitude together have such a good effect – all that causes a hormonal blow, a feeling that is often called “falling in love”. Lovers who expect that the state of passion will last forever should be ready for disappointment, but with reasonable planning, the feelings inherent in it can be resuscitated again and again when you want.

How to find a mate.

Love begins with lust, which can last several hours, several days or several weeks. Then comes a period of passion, which can last an average of three to 12 months before attachment. When, after a year or so, the cocktail of hormones dazzling you ceases to be intoxicating, you will see your partner in the cold daylight, and those cute little things that were so dear to you will begin to annoy you. It seemed ridiculous to you that he couldn’t find cheese in the refrigerator, but now you want to scream from it. He so loved to hear your talk about the smallest trifles, but now he wants to kill you, if only you would shut up. You ask yourself the question: “Can I put up with this for the rest of my life? What have I found in us in common?” It is possible that you have little in common, and there will be nothing to talk about. Nature has reached its goal: it threw you into each other’s arms, acting on a powerful chemical cocktail that made you multiply, but not think. Finding a suitable pair for yourself means deciding what you have in common with someone, having in mind a long-term relationship, and this must be done before the natural peak of hormonal disruption sets in. When the stage of passion drive has passed – and it will pass without fail – can you build relationships based on friendship and common interests? Write a list of priorities and interests that you would like to find with your couple, and then you will know exactly what you are looking for. The man stocks up with a list of qualities of an ideal couple for himself, but he goes to the party, inflamed with testosterone. And he will begin to search for the “ideal” woman under the influence of this hormone – beautiful legs, a flat stomach, a rounded back, well-shaped breasts are all signs associated with short-term reproduction function. A woman wants a man who is sensual and caring, with a triangular torso, wants a strong personality – all the signs associated with help in raising a child, with getting food and protecting the family. In both cases, there are short-term biological needs that have little to do with success in modern society. If you write a list of desirable qualities of your ideal partner and have it at hand, it will help you objectively evaluate your new acquaintance / next time when nature tries to take control of your thoughts and passions. Nature wants you to multiply as often as possible and uses powerful substances, pushing you to this. When you understand this and arm yourself with a working description of your ideal couple,

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